Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Prayers Answered and otherwise...

Ever think it's funny that you can go for days or even weeks with nothing major going on in the lives around you...and then all of a sudden a cosmic explosion happens and it pours?

Some friends of ours had their son, Adam, on January 6th. He as born at 26 weeks and tipped the scale at 1 pound 13 ounces the night he arrived. Adam got dealt a bunk deck to absolutely no fault of his or anyone elses' own. His mom found out in the process of trying to get pregnant that she only has half a uterus...so his quarters were a mystery as to how long they'd last before he needed more space. The 20 week ultrasound showed a cleft lip and palate, which on a full-term baby is an easily treated condition but on a premie, it causes issues. His little lungs never had a chance to develop and his life on a ventilator was a series of roller coaster rides of oxygen desaturation levels. Then in the last 36 hours, his bowels decided to give up and after a surgery to repair that damage, Adam's little tiny body gave up and he became an angel at 5am today.

My heart is breaking for our friends. These two are going to be the most amazing parents. Their love and humor and faith for each other, for their marriage, and for life makes them such an amazing couple. When we learned of their pregnancy, my heart leapt as I knew this was an answered prayer for them. As the pregnancy progressed, my excitement for them and for the awesome journey they were on was also progressing. They don't deserve to have it turn out this way!!! They don't deserve all of this!! They deserve to be like all of the other couples I know - who enter the hospital one day and leave three days later with a healthy baby!!!

The same day, today, that I learn of this devastating news, I also learn that another couple I know who struggled with infertility has been approved on all the necessary paperwork for the adoption of their third child from Columbia. They leave on Thursday to travel to Bodega to pick up their son, Samuel, who will be one year old on March 3. This was prayers answered, as adoption paperwork is a very long, frusterating and time consuming process which we have all been thru with them twice before with their older two children. Their family becomes complete on Thursday...the day we'll probably be traveling to Madison, WI for the funeral of another baby.

Why does this happen? Why does it seem that God chooses who to bless and who gets the roughest road possible?? There's a seperate heaven for children...or so they say...and I'm sure it's an amazing place. I just wish there was one less angel there...his parents miss him already too much....

1 comment:

HeatherL said...

(((hugs))) Life has been so hard for you lately. I barely know you (from the group) and I wish I could give you a real hug. I don't know why bad things happen to anyone. It sucks. The only consolation I could offer that couple (I can't remember if they are friends or family) is that we're promised that He'll never leave us. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child. There are no words or answers for that. I just hope that somehow they can lean on the Lord and find confort there. Psalm 91 says, "He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge" It reminds me of a mother bird protecting her chick by hiding it under her wing. It's a great place to be when you're vulverable because of pain. Very comforting.